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Finding Pockets of Simplicity In Chaos

It’s already been a day and its only noon. My 3-month-old is particularly fussy this morning and my 3-year-old has managed to acquire pink eye. I have been running around the house all morning trying to wash everything that my 3-year-old could have possibly touched before we realized her condition. It got me thinking…

So many of us are busy, busy, busy. Even if you dream of a slower pace, when you currently have a full plate, how do you slow down? How do you find pockets of simplicity? Especially when you encounter periods that are especially chaotic.

Even amid our busiest, most overwhelming days, we can find pockets of simplicity. It will look different for everyone, but it can be done.

Here are a few ideas that I have tried:

  • Breathe. Do you have time to close your eyes and breathe? Even a 30 second time out to breathe can help bring things into perspective.
  • Clean one small area if you feel like your surroundings are closing in on you. If you desk is overflowing with paper or your kids have made a mess of your house, you may feel extra stress. Feeling like you have control of one area of your environment can make all the difference. Even if it is a corner of your desk or part of your kitchen counter.
  • Reduce your use of technology. How often do you have to check email or social media? Can you put your phone down to engage in other aspects of your life? Set limits.
  • Find a place of quiet. Even if for a few minutes.
  • Find the positive. What is good in your life?

Today is one of my more chaotic days. I am taking time to sit still and breathe when there are gaps between calls for Mama’s help. It helps keep things in perspective. And with a fussy baby, I am thankful for any pockets of quiet that come my way.

Let’s see if I can continue to follow my own advice today.

How do you cultivate simplicity on your particularly chaotic or stressful days?

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There is nothing simple about being pregnant while raising a toddler

I have met my match. Try as I might to keep our family life simple and under control, my lack of energy often goes head-to-head with my 3-year-old daughter’s willpower. And she is a good kid. I just don’t have much energy these days.

There is nothing simple about being pregnant while raising a toddler or preschooler. There just isn’t.

And with a high risk pregnancy I have to take it easy in addition to dealing with my malaise. Of course, my daughter takes full advantage of my weakened state. I try to maintain boundaries, and sometimes I succeed, but often I do not.

Honestly, I am just plain worn out at the end of each and every day.

It doesn’t matter if you are a stay-at-home mom or a working mama, it’s a lot to handle.

When you are pregnant with your second (or any child after that, I’m sure) you realize how good you had it when you were pregnant with your first. You had time for naps. Glorious naps.

Your older child doesn’t care if you sleep. Ever.

So right now is all about survival.

It isn’t easy, but it’s worth it in the end. 🙂

7 Tips for Simple Flights with a Toddler
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7 Tips for Simple Flights with a Toddler

Despite the fact that my husband and I are veteran travelers, I was still really nervous (terrified) to fly with our toddler. I put off our first family flight for quite awhile. Now after several flights of varying duration with our toddler, I have learned that you can make it through with proper planning and a bit of luck.

It is not possible to eliminate all toddler meltdowns, but you can greatly decrease the probability by following these simple tips.

#1 Do take snacks for the plane even if food will be served. I guarantee your toddler is not going to like most of the food served. And bring finger foods. Crackers and apple slices = win; spaghetti and meatballs = humiliating mess.

#2 Don’t forget their favorite snuggly stuffed animal AND blanket. Having their snuggly will help them fall sleep once the excitement of being on the plane has worn off. Some budget airlines like Southwest don’t pass out blankets anymore, and who wants a frozen tot? A familiar warm blanket is where it’s at.

#3 In addition to snacks–bring a sippy cup of their favorite drink. Does your toddler love juice and you hate it? It doesn’t matter. Bring the juice. During take off and descent, let them drink from their sippy cup to allow their ears to pop. And if it has to be juice, for the love of god, water it down. You don’t want to deal with a sugar high on an eight hour flight.

#4 While waiting for the plane, walk around the airport with your toddler. And I mean walk with them, don’t push them in the stroller. Let them walk and run all of their wiggles out before getting on the plane.7 TIps for Simple Flights with a Toddler

#5 Bring a few activities for them to do on the plane. This means quiet and portable activities. Coloring book and crayons if they can color on paper without defacing the plane itself. Those triangle shaped crayons are amazing because they don’t roll away–perfect for when you are strapped in. Bring stickers or those magnetic sticker books (my daughter’s favorite) for at least an hour of entertainment for kids who are beyond the put-everything-in-my-mouth stage.

#6 Do NOT be afraid to change your toddler on the plane. If your toddler is still in diapers, then you may have to change a dirty diaper in an excruciatingly tiny bathroom. Believe it or not, not all airport bathrooms have changing tables. It is a good practice to ask the flight attendants about the changing table situation when you board the flight so you know the go-to bathroom in a pinch.

#7 Relax. Your toddler will scream. He will stare at the passengers behind you while licking his lips because he wants some of the candy they are eating. She will slither down to the ground and try to crawl under the seats. Know that other kids have done the same and that the other passengers will live to see another day. If an embarrassing moment happens, apologize, redirect your toddler, and continue to count down the number of seconds until the plane lands.

These are some of the tricks that we have used with our toddler to make air travel somewhat pleasant. It’s not rocket science, but it pays to be prepared.

I’m still working on being a relaxed traveling parent. I chant the #7 tip to myself over and over as we prepare to board an airplane as a family. “Relax, relax, relax. My job is to minimize collateral damage for the other passengers, not completely eliminate it. Relax, relax, relax.”

It usually works.

Here is to a successful flight with your little ones.

Do you have any tips for simple travel with a toddler?

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