I am always down to try new yoga classes. When I heard that several yoga studios in our city banded together to host a Free Day of Yoga over Labor Day weekend, I was in. It was a classic case of too many yoga studios and so little time.
We were encouraged to studio hop as much as we wanted to try out different styles, teachers and studio vibes.
I took two classes at studios that I don’t normally frequent, including a yin class. Yin is a great way to slow down and get a good deep stretch. My hips have been really tight lately from running around after small children and a lot of sitting at work. It was delicious to spend 20 minutes in sleeping swan pose peeling open my sticky hips.
And I found a new favorite yoga studio. It offers many yoga styles throughout the day rather than sticking to one type. The studio itself is tiny and a bit older, but it’s clean. Most importantly, they offer classes at times that work for my schedule.
I met the Free Day of Yoga organizer at one of my classes. She said the idea first started in Houston several years ago. Apparently this idea is sweeping the country and the free days offered vary by community.
If you have ever been interested in yoga, do a quick Internet search to see if your community has a Free Day of Yoga coming up. And if you regularly practice yoga, it’s an opportunity to switch things up a bit and try out a different studio or style of yoga.
Do you ever overcommit? Do you then promise yourself that you will stop?
And I’ve been racking my brain to figure out why.
I want to be a person who naturally takes on less. I want to know my limits. Even when I tell myself to cut back on commitments to create more space in my day, somehow I manage to add more to my schedule. It’s classic commitment creep.
So this school year I’m trying something different.
It’s the year of letting go of what is not necessary in order to take back my time. It’s the Year of No Thank You.
Last year we had a baby. And my husband’s business doubled its number of clients. I returned to a full-time job after maternity leave. And I was teaching a baby wearing dance class. All of a sudden we were really busy.
I’m sure you understand.
But see what I mean about commitment creep?
Something had to give.
Earlier this year I took a personal inventory to figure out how we got to our overwhelmed lives. And then I took action.
First, I gave up teaching the baby wearing dance class. It was taking up 3-4 hours of my Saturday mornings. My little one was outgrowing our baby carrier and it was an easy transition to give the class to another instructor. I decided to limit my fitness teaching to subbing cycling and yoga classes for the year to keep a toe in the fitness world.
Next, after much discussion with my husband, I decided to leave my full-time job at the nonprofit where I had worked for over a decade. It was a very hard decision. I believe in the mission of the organization, but out of necessity I was also working in our family business. It was too much. After doing the math, we realized that the transition to teaching more and working in the family business would only mean a small pay cut.
So now my schedule has much more flexibility. I still teach part-time and help out with the family business. Some weeks I work a lot in the business, but other weeks I can focus more on our family. So far, so good.
And now I’m saying “No Thank You” to other commitment opportunities that come my way. In fact, “no thank you” has become my mantra. Because by saying no to additional responsibilities, even if they are amazing, I am saying yes to unstructured time with my family. And that is what the Year of No Thank You is All About.
Let’s see if I can keep this up. 🙂
Have you been able to say no thank you to commitment creep?
Who needs meditation the most? Busy people. Those of us who are not naturally calm. People who have a lot on their mind.
We know that we can benefit from time to quiet our mind, but finding the space for quiet can be hard.
I’ve had both family and friends tell me that they can’t find time to meditate. They don’t feel that they have enough hours in the day or they aren’t the type of people who can sit still easily. So they ask how they can incorporate meditation into their lives if they can’t sit still.
No judgment if people aren’t ready or don’t want to sit in a traditional meditation posture. There are other ways to get the benefits of a meditative mindset even if you don’t want to sit in one spot.
Through my yoga studies and personal experience, I have learned that we can calm our mind even when we are moving. Whether we are flowing through yoga postures, hiking in the mountains or strolling our neighborhood, we can move mindfully and create head space.
The goal of meditation is not to clear your mind completely or to think about nothing, rather meditation is designed to help you become aware of your thoughts as they appear so you don’t become consumed by them. If your mind jumps all over the place from thought to unrelated thought, you are experiencing a phenomenon known as “monkey mind.” And you are not alone.
Many of us wrestle with thoughts that jump all over the place. Thoughts like, “I’m hungry. How far is it from San Francisco to Tokyo? I should Google that. I can’t forget to pick up the dry cleaning. I wonder what they are thinking about me. Do I have lettuce stuck in my teeth?” Our minds bounce all over the place, even when we are trying to focus on a project, a task or the present moment.
Meditation is an avenue that allows you to acknowledge your random thoughts and let them go.
We all can begin to tame our monkey mind simply by acknowledging our thoughts and emotions without letting them consume us. This consciousness can be attained through a walking meditation if you don’t have the time or inclination to literally sit with your thoughts.
How to Engage in a Walking Meditation
This is not your typical city walk. You want to reduce outside distractions as much as possible, including traffic, pot holes and other dangers. You will be turning your focus inward, so find a space with even trails or sidewalks that will allow you to do so. Also, leave the technology behind. A walking meditation is a time to be alone with your thoughts.
As you begin your walk, be mindful of the world around you. Notice the noises nearby. Are birds singing? Do you hear traffic?
Then, as you walk, tune in to sounds farther away. Can you make out specific sounds from the overall din of the soundscape?
Then turn the focus inward. Keeping your eyes gazed on the path ahead, become mindful of your breathing. What is the quality of your breath? Is it shallow? Are you breathing into your back? Just notice.
Then see if you can maintain a rhythm with the breath. Most of us will need to slow down our breathing. Focus on making the inhalation and exhalation approximately the same length. Keep this focus for a minute or two.
And all this time, you are still moving. You may notice that your walking pace has slowed. That is ok.
Now it is time to turn your focus to your thoughts.
Notice what thought bubbles up in your mind, acknowledge it, thank the thought, and let it go. Bring your awareness back to the breath.
Don’t become discouraged if your mind drifts away to another time and place. Find the breath and begin again.
Each time a random thought pops into your mind, notice it, thank it and let it go. Bring your focus back to the breath. See if you can stay in the present a little bit longer this time.
Keep walking, breathing, and noticing.
It’s a journey. Noticing our thought patterns and quieting our minds isn’t easy. But it’s worth it every step of the way.
If you have been watching YouTube over the last year, you might have seen viral videos of new parents dancing around wearing their babies like this one. The parents were taking a group exercise class called Groovearoo in San Diego, and they are having a blast. When I saw it, I was 7 months pregnant and excited to try a class in our city. But when baby came, I quickly learned that we didn’t have any local babywearing classes.
I wish I could say that I decided right then and there to start teaching a babywearing dance class. I used to teach Zumba. I had a baby. Heck, I had four baby carriers. But the thought never crossed my mind. I was a new mom trying to make it through each day.
Then when I was taking a baby and me yoga class last summer, we all started chatting about the YouTube videos of babywearing dancers and lamenting the fact that we didn’t have a local class.
“You know, you really should teach that,” one mom said to me.
Wow. Me? Yeah. Hmmm…Could I? I guess I had the qualifications. I had a baby to dance with, and I started to realize that it really was something I could do. It would just take research and some practice.
And that is how I began teaching a babywearing dance class last fall.
If you are new to babywearing dance, below are some tips based on my experience to help you and your baby have a positive dance experience and actually want to come back again and again.
So what is babywearing dance class all about?
Parents come to class with their babies, diaper bag (super important) and a baby carrier that provides proper support for baby as well as comfort for Mom or Dad (you are dancing after all).
Although I wore my little one last fall when I taught, most instructors are not wearing babies. The job of the instructor is to keep you both safe while leading you through a low impact workout that allows you to have fun. Please check in with your instructor if you are new to their babywearing dance class. They can check the fit of your carrier and provide you with any information you need to have a fun and safe experience in their class.
What kind of carrier should I use?
Seriously, do not scrimp on a carrier with solid support. And quadruple check that your baby fits properly inside. You don’t want your baby falling out or chaffing against you during class. And absolutely no slings.
Ergo carriers are great. The BabyBjorn One Air is another model that provides back support and is breathable. I have seen multiple brands and styles that have worked very well. It really is all about making sure that the carrier is safe for the baby and is comfortable for you as you dance.
How long are classes?
Classes are usually 30 minutes to an hour and allow you multiple breaks to cool off, check on baby, change diapers, feed, etc. And if you decide you have had enough, there is no shame in leaving early. We have all been there. Sometimes you need to call it a day to ensure you want to come back for the next class.
What else should I do to ensure I’m dancing safely?
Dancing by yourself is going to make you sweat. Now strap on a 10-15 lb. heater to the front of your body. Sweat will be poring into your eyes, and quickly. And imagine how baby feels as sweat rains down upon them. You need to take many more breaks than you would if you were working out solo to check on baby’s temperature and make sure you don’t overheat.
Also, this is not the time for high impact jumps or complicated moves. You can’t swing your arms like you normally can. If you do, then you risk smacking your baby in the face. It’s best to just not.
A beautiful visual of parent-tot bonding, right?
It really is the most beautiful visual at the beginning of class before you begin to sweat. Remember, your baby is a little heater. And if you take breaks and keep it low impact, then you both should feel great by the end.
I am an instructor. How do I learn to teach a babywearing class? And should I teach while wearing my baby?
Currently the only babywearing certification I know of is through Groovearoo. Depending on your exercise background, you may be able to design a class on your own. Be very careful if you choose the DIY option. Do your research, err on the side of caution and ask your participants to sign waivers (which is a good practice in general).
I taught while wearing my 6-month-old daughter. I knew going into it that it would be challenging, but I wanted the experience. After a couple of classes, I realized if my baby wasn’t happy, the tone of the class would dissolve quickly. So I had someone standing by to take her in case there were problems. The extra logistics made wearing my baby while teaching unsustainable. Although we had fun, I wouldn’t recommend wearing your own baby while teaching on a regular basis. Dance with your baby at home or as a participant in another instructor’s class. When you are teaching you need to focus on your participants. In fact, you could wear a baby doll in a carrier if you want to model the movements and carrier fit without the risk of a baby meltdown. 🙂
I hope these tips are helpful. Please Contact Me if you have individual questions or feel free to leave a comment below.
Maybe you are still stuck trying to think of the perfect gift for your favorite traveller who hasn’t quite settled down or your best friend who is in full declutter mode. Maybe you want to give to someone that has waaaay too much stuff. What do you do?
Consider an experiential gift
Gifts of experience can be the answer to the question “What do I buy for someone who has everything?” or “What do I buy for my minimalist family member?” Perhaps you decide to gift them an activity or help them out with your expertise.
For example, my hubby is pretty handy, and he is always helping out my Mom with projects around her house. I think she appreciates his help much more than anything he can buy since she can no longer do the work herself.
What other kinds of experience gifts can you give?
For the kids:
Tickets to the local zoo
Tickets to a children’s museum (if you have one in your area)
Tickets to ride a train (really, any train. I have yet to meet a kid who doesn’t love a train ride)
Make them a certificate valid for a special outing to their favorite park with you.
Take them out for their favorite meal
Give them a day of yes. Basically, if they want to do something, then you do it. (I read about this awhile back, and the kids loved it. Let the recipient know they have to keep the requests within reason.)
Plan a family outing to one of their favorite places.
Take them to the movies or drive in
For the bigger kids (aka adults):
Make them a meal or give them a gift card to a favorite restaurant.
For active peeps: Book a fun workout of their choice or one they have wanted to try. Better yet, do it together. (yoga, acrobatics, color run, obstacle course, etc.)
Help them complete a lingering household project
Schedule time to hang out and spend the day on new experiences around town
Bake something, bring it over, and spend time catching up while eating
Tickets to a favorite sporting or concert event (just make sure the recipient is available on the scheduled date)
For travelers: gift cards to their favorite airline.
If you are handy: Offer to help them with a project around the house. This is especially helpful for seniors and people with disabilities.
For avid online shoppers: offer to renew their Amazon Prime membership. At least you aren’t buying the actual items, just enabling their hobby a wee bit.
Do you have any other ideas for an experiential gift? If so, I would love to hear it. Please share your ideas in the comments section below.
I have this dream that I wake up at 5am every morning and run down to the local yoga studio to take a 5:45am yoga class. In my dream I return home feeling awake, open and energetic, all before the rest of the family wakes up. We then gets ready for the day together, and I make it to work on time. I am an early riser, and I feel good.
Alas, it’s only a dream. The truth is that I’m not a morning person. I wake up most mornings between 6-7am because my 6-month-old is an early riser. Yet rising at 5am on a regular basis seems impossible. It’s a ridiculous mental block.
With the help of daylight savings, I am about to make my dream of early morning yoga a reality. Here is the plan–starting on Monday, I’ll wake up at the same time, or what feels like 6am. Since our clocks move back one hour, it will actually be 5am. This extra hour will give me the kick in the pants I need to fit in a yoga practice at the beginning of the day.
I’m happy to use Daylight Savings as a convenient mind trick to add yoga back into my routine.
What are you doing with your extra hour of sleep this weekend?